How do you feel?
It’s the most cliché therapist question ever. However, I’ve found when I actually ask people I’m sitting with, how do you feel, they usually bubbles over with emotions and insights and real things, as if they’ve just been waiting for someone to finally ask.
I’m a psychology major. I want to study counseling. I can see through this question. My campus pastor asked me the other day, how do I feel. As cliché, as hollowed out, as obvious as I knew it was, this was exactly what I needed someone to say.
This reflection isn’t really about the design process or General Assembly course but about how effective it’s been for our team to ask each other how we’re feeling. John-Michael always opens with it. And I always think, this is silly, and cheesy, and obvious. But I find myself pouring out what’s going on and how I’m feeling about it, what I’m stressed about and what I think I need to do next. Simply asking how do you feel is incredibly effective. There’s a reason it’s clichéd. Going forward, I’m hoping to ask this question often.